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Below are the 20 most recent journal entries recorded in Seacoast ME/NH Poly's LiveJournal:

Friday, October 26th, 2007
12:33 pm
[onyxhealer]
obligatory introductory post cause I finally jumped on the bandwagon
I think this would be the obligatory introductory post.

I am in my late twenties, live in southern NH (though I'll be moving to the seacoast area in the near future) and I have been in a number of polyamorous relationships. I've also been in a number of monogamous relationships too; I've experienced both sides.

This next bit is just my opinion, formed from my personal experiences and reflections.

I have recently come to believe that although polyamory and monogamy are comparable to sexual orientations in that "some people are just wired that way" they are also comparable to sexual orientations in another way. They are a spectrum, without clear well-defined divisions. I believe that just as some people can be bisexual (50%/50% split) and some can favor one sex over the other but not to the exclusion of the other (70/30%, 80/20%, etc.)- polyamory also falls along a similar kind of spectrum of sexual orientation. There may be some people out there who are dyed-in-the-wool monogamists- incapable of even being attracted to anyone else when they're in love with that one person. There also may be some people out there who are always going to be polyamorous- loving many, attracted to many, and willing and able to sustain loving relationships with more than one person. But I believe that there is a third kind of person, the "bisexual" of the poly/monogamy spectrum... who falls somewhere in between.

I've found monogamy to be satisfying and fulfilling. I've found polyamory to be satisfying and fulfilling. I've also experienced some of the problems and pitfalls in both. I identify as that third type, the "invisible" liminal type of the poly world who has both monogamous and polyamorous traits.

This does not mean that I'm confused, that I need to make up my mind, that I just haven't found the right poly relationship yet, or that I'm not "really" poly.

I'm just both.

Anyways... I am aware that some of that, the last paragraph in particular, may have come across as a little confrontational. I don't mean it in that spirit. Rather, I hope to provide some food for thought, introduce myself, and possible get the ball rolling on some conversation and posts in a community that seems like it doesn't get much action. (Wordplay not intended and simply a happy and amusing accident. ;))

I look forward to getting to know those of you that I don't know, and chatting more with those of you that I do.

-Onyxhealer

Current Mood: tired
Thursday, October 25th, 2007
11:46 am
[tragnon]
Is anybody still out there?
Well, It's been a long time since anybody has posted in here. I'm sort of wondering if I should even bother to leave it open, or just delete it. Personally, I'd like to see some more activity out there.
Sunday, March 4th, 2007
10:19 am
[tragnon]
An interesting article
Been a while since a post has appeared in this community. I picked up this article posted to several groups, and thought I should add it here as well!

http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationships/article1448754.ece
Thursday, December 21st, 2006
12:17 pm
[brianna_78]
Hello Everyone!
Hi everyone.

I wanted to wish everyone a Happy Holiday Season. I noticed that no one has posted in some time. So, I have a question for everyone. How hard is it to go back to being "just friends" after a poly relationship? Or is it even possible?

I look forward to everyone's thoughts.

Current Mood: curious
Sunday, July 23rd, 2006
8:39 am
[taltos42]
Wife fianally read the articles, and her comment was " Seems like the lazy mans way out." Keeping the outward appearance of a "Normal" life while getting your needs met behind the scenes.
Tuesday, July 18th, 2006
10:42 pm
[duckydoo]
Meet me in Manchester!
Hi. I am a sex educator, Sexual Assault & Violence Intervention Counselor and author from New York City. I'll be making my first appearance in New Hampshire next week! I hope if you are interested that you will come out and say hello. I'd love to have some poly-positive people there. xoxo- Ducky

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Friday, June 2nd, 2006
8:46 am
[taltos42]
What follows is something I assembled for my wife for her to begin to understand what polyamory is about. Its rather long, but I think Its a good start


Thursday, June 1st, 2006
1:04 pm
[tragnon]
So, we have people from the Burb's of Boston to Ne'ah Potland... :)

It's getting too quiet around here...somebody say something!

Current Mood: happy
Sunday, April 30th, 2006
10:04 am
[imithe]
No lurking for me!
Good morning everyone.

I just came across the link to this community, though I think I've heard about it before. So, here's me.

I'm 27, married to a wonderful man who introduced me to the idea of poly when we first started dating many years ago. We live in southern Maine around Portland. I often post in poly communities with the perspective of the person dealing with her partner having other partners. This is a bit hard to describe, but there's a question involved as well.

Have any of you felt like "I'm poly, but I don't want any relationships beyond the one I have right now."? Like, there's only so much energy to go around, and that there isn't enough left over for another love? I know that love itself is infinite, but time and awakeness are. :)

I haven't been much open to new love for several years now, since something ended very badly, and sometimes I feel like I should figure that out and at least lower the walls a little.

Anyway, that's me and my confusion in a nutshell. It's very cool to see a more local place, and I look forward to hearing and writing more.

Current Mood: sleepy
Tuesday, March 28th, 2006
8:17 am
[brianna_78]
Hi all
I guess I shall go first...

*stands up*

Hi, my name is Bri, I'm 27 years old and I'm poly. *whew* Now that I've got that out of the way...

*sit down*

I'm also a mom, a wife, a daughter, a sister (let's not go into my family history...you would need a book for it. ;-) ), and a student! Right now, I'm going to Sountern NH Univerity for my BA in Psychology. I'm in a Saturday morning class right now. Most people say I'm crazy for taking a Saturday morning class, because not only am I in class 8:30 am to 1:30 pm, I also have to give up most of my Friday nights so I can get some rest.

My daughter is going to be 3 on May 2nd. Time sure does fly, it seems just like yesterday I was holding her small body in my arms. Well, ok, not so small body. When she was born, she weighted 9 lbs 1 oz. Yes, a big baby. She's also very active.

Today looks like it's going to be a good day. I just might go to the park with her, run her around a bit. Who knows. I do know that I have to do some homework tonight. I have a test I need to finish and some chapters that I need to read for class. And I have to study for my midterm on Saturday (AHHHH!!).

So, I have a question for all of you (and yes, I'm looking for answers!). How do you come out as Poly to family members?

This is something that I'm trying to get though right now. Most people don't understand what poly is (they think it's swinging *rolls eyes*) so I don't know how to talk to anyone about it. That and I'm worried that when I do come out as Poly, someone might try to take my daughter away from me. That's what terrifies me the most.

Current Mood: curious
Monday, March 27th, 2006
9:23 am
[tragnon]
I see lurkers!!!!
Hi everybody!...I see new faces out there, Let's introduce ourseves a bit, and get some activity going!

For those who are curious, Tragnon is the name of one of my first D&D characters, who has been reborn in many different ways, Currently on EQ, although his D&D self may make an NPC reprise in the near future. I am sneaking up on 41, married to our lovely co-host Brianna_78, and we have the cutest little (almost) 3 year old girl, who if you look in my journal is either refered to as A, or as dubbed by one of our friends recently as Princess. We are Pagan, poly, sci-fi, geeks. I recently started a seacoast poly website and that has links to some other resources. Any contributions of content would be great.

Currently, my only partner is Brianna, although I am hoping that I can meet more poly friendly people, and expand my world. It doesn't help that I am a bit on the shy side, and have difficulty meeting people to begin with. (B tripped me at a roller skating rink, and I fell for her!) I know that I am not alone in this, finding other poly people can be difficult, since so many hide in shadows, afraid to come out. Shy people like me have difficulty in meeting new people, much less introducing them to a radically different lifestyle than is the norm.

So, that said, come on in, put your feet up, and sit a spell. The natives are friendly, and we would live to hear from people. Also, spread the word, if you have poly friends, point them this way. I'd like to try to start having a monthly D&D game, (adventurettes, not a long campaign), and maybe a picnic outing once the weather warms up.

Current Mood: hopeful
Tuesday, March 14th, 2006
8:26 am
[tragnon]
A post in my journal...
http://tragnon.livejournal.com/24214.html

A post on what lessons poly parents can pass on to their children. Hopefully it will be extended by discussion.

Current Mood: contemplative
Tuesday, March 7th, 2006
6:33 pm
[tragnon]
Poll for seacoast poly
Poll #686658 Social Evening

What would be a nice social get together

Pot-Luck BBQ
1(20.0%)
Dungeons and Dragons game
1(20.0%)
Movie night
1(20.0%)
All the above in one evening
2(40.0%)
Monday, February 27th, 2006
4:13 pm
[tragnon]
Everquest
Anybody else play EQ? brianna_78 and I both have characters on Nameless.

If anybody else is on there, we could post a list of characters so that we can chat in game, or group up.
4:10 pm
[tragnon]
Socializing
I am toying with a couple of ideas, and would love some input!

a> D&D evenings (I only have books and stuff up through 2nd ed. AD&D), say 1/mo

b> Movie nights (primarily Sci-Fi...OMG I am SUCH a geek)

I'll watch the comments, since I havn't figured out polls yet!
Wednesday, February 22nd, 2006
3:24 pm
[alan7388]
Howdy
Hi there! I'm in the Boston burbs -- not exactly the Seacoast area but close enuf that I'd like to keep tabs on what's up. Not looking for partners, BTW; looking for friends and interesting folks in the community.

Alan7388
Monday, February 20th, 2006
8:45 pm
[tragnon]
A new member!
Welcome Gardenfey. Glad you joined...Hopefully we can add more members and actually get a meet up happening.
Friday, February 17th, 2006
1:27 pm
[brianna_78]
Comfort zone
I think we all have a comfort zone, one that is very hard to leave. We often feel nervous, excited, and maybe even sick to our stomach with just the thought of reaching out beyond the zone. Yes, we could be in danger of hurt feelings but there's so much more we can learn if we just reach out.

Current Mood: contemplative
Monday, February 13th, 2006
6:50 pm
[tragnon]
Comfort Zone
I never thought of myself as hiding within a comfort zone. I had thought that I was in the habit of challenging myself and going outside the box. In response to a comment I posted in the polyamory group, I find that to meet more like minded people, I have to move outside of the activities that I normally find myself in. My current existance tends to leave me working, doing school work, and maybe doing some things online. Guess this needs to be changed, and I need to get out. It has been suggested that good social interaction takes place on Live Action Role Playing events, as well as table top gaming. For years I was a D&D player, but now nobody seems to play. Can an old D&D player find a home in a new world, learn a new game? I suppose it can happen, given the right time and opportunity.

I fell into my first poly situation by accident, and the situation lasted for several years. Now, I find myself trying to put myself in a position where it can happen again. Time for me to be more outgoing, and get my parrot feathers out from behind this computer.


Current Mood: confused
Wednesday, February 8th, 2006
2:31 pm
[tragnon]
Welcome
Welcome to the Seacoast Poly community. As long as we keep things respectful in here, we can have fun. It is my goal to eventually have a large enough community of local Poly families/poly minded singles to have a meet up somewhere in the area.

I don't want to see posts looking for the mythical hot, bi-babe, but feel free to Introduce yourself, and what your current relationship status is. If somebody reading it is interested, I am certain that you will get some comments.

If you are visiting this community, and reside far,far away, I welcome you, but warn you that I want to keep this group somewhat geographically focused, so any events that we come up with, will probably be in this area.

Enough with the welcome message, let's start by discussing polyamory...as soon as we get a few members.
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